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Sad reality.

I had a talk with my mom earlier today, after my husband went to work, I made a call to the Philippines. My mom is in the province right now, she went there to talk to my grandparents about some family problem.

But anyway, while we were talking, she mentioned that 2 of our neighbors died and it’s a husband and wife. The cause of death was tragic, they both died because of hunger. They haven’t eaten anything for few days. The wife died first then after 2 days, the husband died too.

What saddened me most is that, one of their son also lived in the neighborhood. He can pass by the house of his parents every morning when he goes to his work. And he wasn’t able to even say hi or give at least some minutes to check on his parents? Maybe he has his reasons but for God’s sake, pakan-a og bisitaha pud uy ginikanan gud na nimo. Di baya ka mabuhi kung dili tungod nila. Now that they needed your help, nganong ningtalikod man ka? And also, where are the other siblings? Can’t they check on their parents too?

Ang nakadiskubre sa ilang kamatayon kay ang amo ra pud silingan nga nagpuyo sa atbang sa ilang balay. Natingala intawon kay nganong wa nay gawas gawas ang mga tigulang unya dunay baho nga gikan sa ilang balay. Mao na diay to, namatay silang duha sa lunos. Ingon pa sa akong nanay, naggakos daw kuno ang mag-asawa nga namatay.

2 weeks before the incident happened, the wife went to our house to ask some rice. My parents gave her rice and some cooked viand, so both of them can eat right away hence the lady is complaining that her and her husband hasn’t eaten any food and they are both so hungry. Ninghangyo pa gyud daw ni sila nga magpadeliver og isa ka sako nga uling kay ilang gamiton, gi-deliveran pud sa akong tatay. Katong mga panahuna, ok pa man daw silang duha. Unya natingala na lang ang akong nanay nganong wa na man nakasuroy pag-usab sa among balay (kay permanente man ni siya mulaag sa balay). Mao diay, kay nangamatay na diay. I remember, when I was still in GenSan, mubisita ni siya sa among balay og muhangyo nga mukaon, amo pud intawon pakaonon kay looy man.

You know, this is really a SAD REALIZATION. We as a human being, we always tend to neglect or forget those tiny things nga maoy pinaka-importante sa atong kinabuhi. Parents will always be parents kay bisan unsa nato kasalawayon nga mga anak, labanan gihapon ta nila but then nganong sa natigulang na sila, wa man nato balusi ang ilang kaayo? We need to take care of them as they grow older, they are our responsibility. Kung unta gipangga sa anak ang ginikanan, dili sila mamatay sa ingon ani nga sitwasyon. Bisan unta og wa niya gisagop sa iyang panimalay, iya lang unta gisuportahan sa pagkaon, ambot kung makatulog ba kahaang anak ani.

In my own saga, when I was still single I worked my butt off for my family. They are my inspiration, they are the reason why I wanted to succeed and I offered every success that I had for them. Even now that I’m already married, they are still a part of me and my husbands dream. Kay bisan unsa nako ka-maldita, ang akong ginikanan mulaban gihapon nako. They love me till death and I love them till death too.

Life can never be lived backwards but only forward..there are no rewind, no replays. So we need to make the most out of it, show our care and our love to our loved ones every moment we have. Besides, our parents will always be our (as daughter’s and son’s) responsibility.